Making decisions sucks – and making big decisions sucks big time
You not only want to make the right choice, but you also, underneath it all, want to win by making the right choice, and winning usually means saving yourself from feeling that you’ve stuffed up.
I have a system I’ve used for nearly 20 years when it comes to decision making.
This system hasn’t prevented me from making some beautifully spectacular stuff ups, but there are a lot less of them than there otherwise would have been, and this is how it goes.
The Power of Three!
It’s all about the threes.
Picture this: you get a great idea, you’re fired up, your heart is racing, your muscles are twitching for action and you want to act on it now!
Do nothing. Nada. Zip. Zilch. Zero.
Let it go and wave bye bye.
This may sounds like the wrong thing to do.
But hear me out.
If, the next day, or in a couple of days’ time the same idea comes back to you again, recognise it.
Greet it like a new acquaintance. ‘Hi there! It’s you again. Lovely to see you!’
And then let it go again.
Then, after another passage of time, days, weeks or even months it comes back!
Now’s the time to move to stage two.
I’ve learned stage two more recently, and it dovetails beautifully with stage one.
With that persistent little bugger of an idea, now do this:
1. Check in with your head; does it feel zingy, sparkly and light?
2. Check in with your heart; does doing this thing feel light both in weight and in luminosity? Does it make you feel anticipatory, that something good is a-coming?
3. And most importantly, check in with your gut.
That’s the place that will give you the most information.
What is your gut telling you?
In Tai Chi and Taoism the belly, round about the navel or where your hands meet when they clasp, is your Dan Tien point.
After all, where do you get butterflies if you’re nervous?
From where do you shit yourself in fear?
Your Third Brain
Science now tells us what the Taoists have known for five thousand years – your gut is your third brain (yes third!).
You have neural networks in your head, your heart and your gut and your gut is all about self-preservation, courage, and core identity.
So, leave that brilliant idea until there have been three check ins with you, and then check that baby in with your head, your heart and your gut.
And, if it still feels great,
Do that thang!